When I’m on my own, I’m a force of nature who is authentically herself, but when I’m with someone I am dating, I panic and can’t be myself because I fear for them. I don’t want people to attack or insult them just because they are involved with me! It’s a weird and disturbing feeling.
Right now, I’ve made three rules [about dating] that I abide by: one, I don’t date women who aren’t independent; two, I don’t date women who aren’t fully aligned with who they are; and three, I don’t date women who aren’t at peace spiritually. I have made these rules based on my past experiences, which have made me go through hell and back. I’ve now accepted that if a woman doesn’t have those three things down, I’m not about to get involved with her. I know it’s asking a lot considering where we live, what we believe, what the norm is, how we grow up, and the religious shitshow we have regarding ourselves, but I can’t go back on myself by sacrificing my peace, which I value above all.
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"Queer family" is an alternative space created by a group of queer Ethiopian women. It is designed to be a space for a diverse group of Ethiopian queer women whose sexual and gender identifications vary. It includes cis and trans women who may be lesbian, bisexual or asexual. This is a space where the experiences of queer people takes center stage. We hope to include personal experiences from our daily lives as queer people, various stories, interviews, original artwork and poetry. We hope it will also serve as a place where Ethiopians in Ethiopia and Ethiopians in the diaspora come as themselves to explore and create an online community.
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«ኩዊር ኢትዮጵያ» የተለያዩ ፆታዊና ወሲባዊ ዝንባሌ ላላቸው ኢትዮጵያዊ ኩዊር ሴቶች እንዲሆን ታስቦ በኩዊር ሴቶች የተመሠረተ አማራጭ ምኅዳር ነው። ይኽውም ሌዝቢያን፣ ባይሴክሽዋል ወይም ኤሴክሽዋል የሆኑ ሴቶችንንና ትራንስ ሴቶችን ያካትታል። ይህ ምኅዳር የኩዊር ማኅበረሰብ ታሪክ እና የሕይወት ልምድ ትልቅ ሥፍራ የሚይዝበት ነው። እንደ’ኩዊር ማኅበረሰብ የዕለት ተዕለት ሕይወታችንን ገጠመኞች፤ የተለያዩ ሰዎችን የግል ታሪኮች፤ ቃለ-
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