This is our “Excerpts from a Dairy” series. We publish excerpts of thoughts and reflections from emails, dairies and journals of people from the queer community. These excerpts could be complete entries or uncompleted and unstructured excerpts that show our personal thoughts and reflections about our lived experience.
We welcome submissions and they can be sent to email@example.com.
The below excerpt is taken from a conversation between an ally and a queer woman about religion and the “cause” of her queerness.
A: So it was not a matter of choice right? You were born that way? or do you think how you were raised had an effect on your sexuality…and how were you raised?
B: I also agree with you in that I don’t think it matters. We never ask if people choose to be straight, right? So why look for a cause? Human sexuality exists on a spectrum and that includes people from straight to gay to bi to pan and any other variety. We should be concerned that all of it is done between consenting adults.
I was raised by a loving family who believed that I should be a compassionate, kind and respectful human. They never lectured us about a judgemental god but rather a loving god. And they encouraged all of us to question and to think for ourselves.
A: Yeah it shouldn’t matter at all but here we are